In a moment, I’ll tell you what’s going on in the minds of these women who seek out—and often stay with—men who will never truly emotionally commit.
And yet most women who are actively dating have had the accusation lobbed their way.
"The first time I heard it was my sophomore year of college, when I kept falling for guy friends who were more interested in building relationships with their new frat bros than with me," recalls Elizabeth, a 31-year-old editor in New Castle, New York.
But isn't falling for people who aren't quite right for you just … "If women are looking for a long-term commitment, they might have to date a lot of guys first before they find one who's in the same place," points out Joanne Davila, Ph D, a professor of clinical psychology at Stony Brook University who studies healthy relationship skills and is coauthor of .
My advice is don't freak out or give up just because he's not ready. There are ways to do it right and keep your heart safe.
This relationship will heal you from your own unreadiness and/or emotional unavailability that you aren't even aware of.