For some, online dating and the connection it brings is a form of addiction, just as strong as substance addiction. Because online dating is more about “projection” than actual reality. Since motivation is so critical to recovery, it is important for therapists and therapy participants alike to understand the motivation for change.
It is about what we WANT to happen, more than what actually is in many cases. This includes understanding the degree of motivation; the type of motivation; as well as understanding various ways to increase motivation.
What Julie did not realize was that Emma’s concerns for her were legitimate ones.
She and many like her, suffer from an addiction as real as substance abuse.
OFM had it all: intelligence with a streak of creativity, the ability not just to hear but to listen, a searing sense of humor with a tang of sarcasm, and a really great rack. Finding someone better was no longer innocent curiosity; it was easy — and it became an obsession.
We started seeing each other regularly — quickly moving from making out in my car to doing much more in my bedroom — and talked on the phone every day. Except for this: I still checked my profile once, twice, three times a day. Yes, OFM listened, but what if someone else listened better?
At some point in every addicted person’s life, there comes a moment when they realize they need to change.Today, nine million Britons will log on to look for love.But is this a trend that could change the very nature of romance and turn long-term commitment into a thing of the past? There is striking evidence to suggest that the web is causing social change.While Julie had always been quiet and reserved, with not much of a social life, suddenly she was out every night.Or she was on the phone till the wee hours, when she was not at the computer, having whispered conversations.True, OFM was smart, but couldn't I find someone smarter?